Sweet Dating Guide

Fill your life with love

How to maintain the relationship between lovers. ?

I don’t think I have too much insight on this subject, except to say something about my own recent feelings.

My boyfriend and I have been in a military relationship for over two years. Like most military relationships, long-distance, meet once a year, and occasionally lose contact with the risk, but, he always find a way to contact me.

When I first met him, he was so kind to me. In the first six months before I met him, he would ask me what time I would finish class in advance (we met when I was a freshman, when he was in the army), and then he would order lunch for me in advance, so that I could get lunch when I returned to the dormitory building. At that time, I felt happy every day. I feel so sweet in love. He will contact me every day, even if he is hiding under the quilt to talk secretly, he will accompany me to sleep at night.

Later, love for a long time, the original freshness of the past, there are not so many topics before, so I became very sensitive, will think why he ignored me, why did not reply to my message, why did not talk to me when the video chat, clearly in the past is like this!

In the middle of a year and a half, we made a lot of trouble because of this problem, he felt that no words can not say, quietly, each do their own things, the video is on and does not talk, but I feel that since the video is on, you do not talk to me, you do not look at me, there to see the joke, what do you mean, you do not want to deal with me, you do not send me video ah!

In fact, this situation has been until January this year, he took leave in November last year to return to the army, but every time I think about him, I will be a little uncontrollable emotions, it is easy to make trouble with him. In early January, we had a particularly low pressure during that period, because he was busy and tired every day, and I did not give him enough understanding, but also let him chat with me, so he broke up with me three times in a week, I know that he was really tired, because of the work pressure of the army, training pressure, but also because I did not understand the pressure he brought to him. The first two times he may be only mentioned a mouth, went to sleep, did not reply, the last time, he said particularly serious, said, “Do you think we have the result, you want now I can not give you, maybe we are really inappropriate”, meaning to break up, I ignored him for a long time, he asked a “Are you sure?” He did not answer directly, that night, I cried, but not as bad as the previous two cries, as if a little sober.

Having said so much, I just want to say that in order to maintain a relationship, you must learn to understand, that is, to put
yourself in the other person’s shoes.

I used to see the fairy boyfriend on the Internet how how to spoil his wife, I have also been affected, I often ask him, why don’t you? But I thought about it, do I have the other girl in the video so good? And then I thought, I choose the boy, he loves me the way why must be compared with others, he did not take me and other people’s girlfriend compared ah ~

So, the so-called empathy, that is, if you are a boy, standing in your boyfriend’s position, how do you think about yourself, there may be some you want your boyfriend to understand you, then you must say it out ah, the difference between men and women is not only physiological, but also psychological and behavioral.

Maybe girls want love, like their boyfriend has always been as obedient to themselves as the initial, but boys will feel that I have to work hard, earn more money, give him a good life, I believe that those good love together for a lifetime, is not boys to girls, or girls to boys unconditional love a, but mutual understanding and support, I understand your silence, You also understand my tears, I am willing to tell jokes to make you happy, break your silence, you are also willing to dry my tears, listen to me tell my heart grievances.

So, I think, the way to maintain long-term love is to put ourselves in each other’s shoes and understand each other.024


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