Sweet Dating Guide

Fill your life with love

Who touched your sense of sexual security?

Sex is sweet and dangerous, and more and more uncertain factors can double your sensory stimulation, but also make you feel uneasy. When faced with the kind of unexplicable gain and loss, where do you have the mood to devote yourself?

NO.1

Sex is strong, but not excessive

Dangerous:

Although I like muscular men, intense and rough sex, can give me great satisfaction, but does not mean that I can accept almost rape sex? He misread my sexual needs, from time to time to a simple and rough “sex”, although sometimes feel very exciting, but my heart is vaguely uneasy, and even some fear of “sex”. Every time I want to say it, I am always embarrassed and want to say it again, but my heart is very depressed.

Interpretation:

For women, foreplay aside, the intensity of sex is just as important as the duration. Reasonable grasp of the strength of sex, not only can make the sexual organs get more depth of stimulation and friction, but also can bring a higher level of psychological enjoyment. According to a survey of 2,000 women conducted by California State University in the United States, 52% of women said that the intensity of sex is the primary factor in the process of “sex”. Gentle sex mode for a long time, it is inevitable to look forward to strong “sex”. Kinsey, the sexologist, said that many women produce plenty of endorphins during vigorous sex. This substance will greatly increase the nerve conduction rate during sex, so that sensory stimulation can be satisfied. But Kinsey told us that this does not mean that the use of brute force can harvest unexpected sexual orgasm, excessive force or even rough sex, will lead to female sexual organ injury, make the private location more prone to breeding bacteria, and even lead to inflammation and infection. The old wound is not good, and the new wound is added, so the expectation of sex will be inhibited by pain and itching, where is the mood to face sex? It is unfair to complain that men do not understand tenderness, it is from the partner’s patience and indulgence, and even the wrong transmission of their sexual expression, so that the other party feels “full of energy” – the result is that you are worried about every “sex”, have a sense of unease, and even refuse to skin.

Timely adjustment:

Switch roles

Next time, change from passive to active. This way you can control the pace of sex and adjust it according to your needs. For him who fights hard every time, he can feel and remember your sexual preferences in addition to novelty. This is a great way to teach him your sexual preferences without words, because men are expressive animals, and in subsequent sex, I believe that he will use this memory to make you like it. Then your purpose will be served. It is worth noting that when women maintain the sexual initiative, they often feel physically exhausted, so they can consider the female upper or backward position.

Start with a deep kiss

Perhaps you do not know that sex that begins with a deep kiss can often slow down the rhythm of “sex”, and the psychology will be more satisfied from shallow to deep. A study of couples who kissed for 15 minutes found that they had the lowest blood levels of cortisol, a hormone associated with feelings of stress and anxiety. Another interesting finding is that the longer you kiss, the better sex you have, the more sex you have because of the trace amount of testosterone in men’s saliva. Through kissing, testosterone is transmitted to the female body and is rapidly absorbed, thus affecting and acting on the female sexual desire germination to a certain level. In addition, a long time of kissing will also make the sexual organs of both sides produce enough body fluid secretion, and avoid injury due to friction during “sex”.

NO2.
It’s a fake sex bite

Dangerous:

To be honest, I don’t think he’s really flirtatious or gentle. But I tried to protect his dignity, to make him feel brave, and I tried to smile at him. But instead he got encouragement, made me sore, and whispered some lame sweet nothings in my ear. I have been very uneasy, is he really in love with me? Or are you just using me as an outlet? Once, I finally had a showdown with him! He looked like a deflated ball, but he questioned me and said that he clearly enjoyed it and said that he didn’t feel it, was he faking an orgasm?

Interpretation:

A sex survey study from the United States shows that 38% of couples have faked orgasm and sexual performance experience in sex, and the proportion of sexual unease in these people is as high as 45%. This insecurity can lead to a significant decrease in sexual satisfaction. Inappropriate feedback about sex can make each other feel that the other person’s attention is not on them at all. The bed is a double stage of love and sex, and it is easy to make people feel unreal in bed, which has a fatal impact and effect on sex and even marriage. Why would he or she lie? Shouldn’t you show your true side to the one you love? If he or she is so false about sex, what can be real in married life? This signal will be amplified during sex, thus forming a psychological shadow. For many people, it is better to accept that the other person is halfway through sex than to pretend to be exaggerated. “Sex Guide · Red Volume” author Amanda Roberts once pointed out: there are too many people because of the imbalance of sexual energy and produce false situations, by pretending to orgasm hope to adjust the rhythm of two people’s sex, while being able to get the other party’s affirmation. But this is like drinking poison to quench thirst, because sex is pleasant, is shared, and this way of sharing should be natural, rather than to cater to each other and sex monologue.

Timely adjustment:

Reconstruct the sexual communication sequence

It’s time to reflect and examine whether your sexual communication is working! To summarize, what do you like about his actions and words during sex, and what do you hate? And reflect on what parts and patterns you want to be stimulated during sex? Then bravely tell him, as long as the communication mode is sincere, tell the other person, I think what would be better, why not try it? Trust that your partner will be receptive and will change it the next time they have sex. Therefore, both people need to affirm the true performance of the other person and send a clear signal about the way they don’t like sex. By gradually changing, and constantly passing on their true feelings, let each other get each other’s correct erotic map.It’s time to reflect and examine whether your sexual communication is working! To summarize, what do you like about his actions and words during sex, and what do you hate? And reflect on what parts and patterns you want to be stimulated during sex? Then bravely tell him, as long as the communication mode is sincere, tell the other person, I think what would be better, why not try it? Trust that your partner will be receptive and will change it the next time they have sex. Therefore, both people need to affirm the true performance of the other person and send a clear signal about the way they don’t like sex. By gradually changing, and constantly passing on their true feelings, let each other get each other’s correct erotic map.

Use games to correct habits

Although it is very simple to get rid of some habits of sex, we should pay attention to the way of correction, and it can be easily transformed by the way of games. You can try the queen and servant light SM game, guiding each other to do what you prefer, while paying attention to each other’s physical feelings. Constantly strengthen the practice, constantly express their sexual needs in the game, so as to avoid embarrassing face, edutainment, why not?

NO3.
Face the fear of failure

Dangerous:

It was a good sex flow, and suddenly it’s like it’s stuck. The erotic advances that started on the couch in the living room didn’t work out for him on the way to the bedroom. Of course I was upset, disappointment written all over my face, but I quickly reassured him that it was all right. He also seemed very embarrassed, did not expect in the future as if he was under a spell, every so often he stopped abruptly at the crucial moment. Even though I sometimes broke barriers, I was also full of worries about the next time I had sex, which kept me from enjoying it.

Interpretation:

Men are more likely than women to be distracted during sex by outside distractions — whether it’s an unexpected phone call, an unintentional joke you made, a line in a TV commercial, or worrying about whether the door is locked. Have the potential to divert his energy quickly! At this time, he wants to quickly return to sex, but the response speed of the body is far from the speed of thinking. So, you need to give him a little more time and wait. If the anger is interrupted, the attention will be diverted again and the desire will be suppressed. As a result, both parties are unhappy and can only hope that the next sex will make up for it. Sex is a two-way communication, and every feedback you give may be firmly imprinted in his heart, thus forming a psychological suggestion of fear of failure. However, it is this psychological pressure that will cause you to forget about sex in the future, and sexual insecurity will multiply.

Timely adjustment:

Space nondestructive “heat conduction”

Why do we always have to do foreplay in the living room while watching romantic art-house movies and then move to the bedroom? With so many bits and pieces of information swirling around in your head, it can be even harder to concentrate! Breaking your sexual pattern, perhaps a kiss in the bathroom to produce erotic sparks, perhaps a small attic in a hand-to-hand encounter, can make your lust amplified. Kinsey, a sex scientist, tells us that a small space is more able to focus on the spirit, and the transmission of desire will not lose at the same time, but also produce a very strong sense of security. Every echo, every whish, can burn your swelling lust. So, next time, you might as well try it!

NO4.
Bedroom stress translates into sex drive

Dangerous:

Before marriage, the bedroom is the place where we relieve stress, and after marriage, the bedroom is the place where we create stress. Seeing the bed, I thought of the old routine, not so much their own familiarity, it is better to say that the tasteless food, abandoned the pity of sex chicken ribs helpless, not boring ah! Although we are very harmonious, but we have no passion! When I think of the sexual interest in the second half of my life spent in such a boring program, I feel a little melancholy.

Interpretation:

You have accumulated enough sexual trust and sexual understanding, at this time, if you spend a little effort to make “sex” become unconventional, whether it is for your emotional maintenance or sexual relationship, it is an unforgettable new record. Sex is not an assembly line, there is no non-A or B answer, and not according to common sense will often get unexpected results. This is not only a unilateral action on your part, but also a process of learning and discovery on both sides. A survey in the United States shows that among couples over the age of 50, those who often create creative sex can generally delay the age of sex by 10 years. This means that you can still have sex on your wedding anniversary in your golden wedding year, and keep the passionate temperature of that year from cooling down. Isn’t that tempting? Shoot a sex documentary that belongs to you, and each other is the protagonist, not only can you find flaws in the sexual process of both sides, and improve it, but also let your adrenaline surge. You can also make a List of plans together, and put those sexual ways you have not tried, such as oral love, finger love, field war, car shock, etc. – to achieve, which will make you full of endless expectations and hopes for “sex”, and cross-use and live to learn and use, will certainly have sex for decades.

Timely adjustment:

Try the sex brakes

Data show that the more dissatisfied with the current sexual situation of couples, the more psychological want to make a breakthrough in a period of time. So keep trying, keep “fighting”, but each time is full of problems left over from the last time are not solved, and the sex score will never fail. For people who make love more than 3 times a week, you do need to reflect on it, and the three hundred rounds of the war not only have no change in enhancing sexual motivation and interest, but also cause the appearance of sexual fatigue. Try the sex brake, in the next month or half a month, avoid sexual organ contact. At this time, the testosterone content in each other’s bodies will be greatly increased, and they are full of expectations for the upcoming passion. Maybe one night after a proper abstinence, the passion for each other will be concentrated, so that you can’t stop.

Amplify each other’s sexual feelings

Sex is not only about the results, but also about the quality of the process. Slow down and have some slow sex. The so-called slow sex is not only limited to the sex itself, such as an ambiguous text message before work, the tenderness in the eyes of the exchange at dinner, the gentle massage after the shower, are the foreplay in slow sex, when the caress begins, fully open the touch and hearing, and don’t forget the sexual fantasy! This is a time-tested free sexual interest stimulant, focusing on the mind can make you better into sex, but also can slowly release your stress and unease, and then enjoy the comfort in the obtained.

Turn off the distractions. Orgasm is in sight

Before sex, consciously eliminate the source of disturbance, so that you can focus on the sex itself more safely. Sex is a very private thing, there is no room for distractions. During this period of time, pay attention to the efficiency of physical and verbal communication, every look and dialogue, all around the physical feelings, and this feeling is timely feedback to each other, so that each other’s desire to tune to the same frequency.


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